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https://apis.google.com/js/plusone.js love and Logic is a parenting technique that has been tried and tested for many years. started by well known parenting experts Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline MD over 30 years ago, love and Logic has helped thousands of parents raise responsible and loving children. Jim Fay has written several books and given classes and seminars all over the country.
The four basic principles of love and logic, build self concept, share the control or decision making, offer empathy, then consequences, and share the thinking and problem solving help build children’s self-esteem and teach them personal responsibility and how to make intelligent choices.Build the Self-ConceptIf your child wants to do something that you think might not be a good idea, ask questions that encourage your child to think about his actions. Five-year-old Sarah is excited about starting her first day of Kindergarten. During the summer she attended a dance camp and loved her ballet shoes so much that she wore them nearly every single day. When the first day of school arrives she wants to wear her ballet shoes to school as well. “Sarah,” her mother says, “You still have your ballet shoes on and the van leaves for school in five minutes.”“I like my ballet shoes, Mom,” Sarah replies. “I know you like them Honey,” her mom says lovingly. “How do you think they will work in the classroom?”“Great!” she says.“How do you think they will work in gym class?”“Oh, not very well. I’ll slip all over the floor. I need to wear my tennis shoes. mom can I pack my ballet shoes in my backpack?”“Yes you can, Sweetie. The van leaves in five minutes.”Share the ControlFighting with your child over control creates tension and can lead to rebellious behavior later in life. Share the control by giving your child choices that you feel good about. Two-year-old Johnny wants to go to the park with his mother. It is a nice sunny day and the park is just around the corner from their home. Mom asks her little boy, “Do you want to walk to the park and hold Mommy’s hand, or ride in the stroller?” “Walk and hold Mommy’s hand!” Johnny exclaims.On the way to the park Johnny gets distracted by some rocks on the side of the road. He lets go of his mom’s hand and starts playing with the rocks. Worried about his safety mom says, “Do you want to hold Mommy’s hand and walk to the park or do you want mommy to carry you to the park?” Johnny doesn’t answer and continues to play with the rocks on the side of the road. mom quickly scoops him up and says, “I am carrying you to the park.”Provide a strong Dose of Empathy before delivering ConsequencesWe learn from our mistakes. usually if humans do something that causes hurt or pain we will avoid that in the future. When you allow your children make poor choices and accept the consequence of their actions you teach them a valuable lesson as long as you do it in a loving way.Mom made vegetable lasagna for dinner for her family. Her three older kids are enjoying the meal which she hasn’t served in several months. The youngest boy, Davie picks at the lasagna and refuses to take a bite. Mom says to her young son, “Dinner is going to be over in 10 minutes, Davie and you haven’t touched your lasagna.”Davie says, “I’m not hungry, Mom. and besides dinner looks weird.”After dinner mom clears Davies plate along with all the rest.Later that night after all her kids are in bed, Davie comes down stairs and says, “Mom I can’t sleep because I am hungry.”Mom says, “Sorry, Sweetie but dinner ended two hours ago. What do you think you should have done?”“I think next time I am going to eat my dinner,” Davie replies.“That is a good idea,” says Mom. “You are a smart kid!”Share the ThinkingWhen your child does something that makes you angry instead of yelling show your child empathy and understanding. This will help your child think about his actions. little Tommy loves to play in his sister’s bedroom when she is in school. He knows he isn’t supposed to go in there but he does it anyway. curious he wanted to know what would happen if he threw her musical jewelry box across the room. Mom hears a crash and enters her daughter’s bedroom.“That is so sad, Tommy. You broke your sister’s special jewelry box. What are you going to do?”OneTommy replies, “Don’t know.”Mom asks, “Would you likE per ascoltare alcune idee? ”“ Un’idea è che potresti aprire il tuo salvadanaio e trovare abbastanza soldi per comprarle una nuova scatola di gioielli. Come funzionerà? ”“ Posso farlo, mamma! Quanto costerà? “” Non sono sicuro. Ti mostrerò come chiamare il negozio e scoprirlo. “Tommy impara tutto su come usare il telefono. Con le lacrime agli occhi, Tommy dice: “La signora dice che una nuova scatola di gioielli costa dieci dollari e ne ho solo quattro”. Abbracciare sua figlio mamma dice: “È così triste, Tommy. Vuoi un’altra idea? “Annuisce, sì.” Puoi guadagnare i sei dollari aiutandomi con un sacco di faccende in casa, come spolverare, e spazzare il pavimento della cucina. Come funzionerà? “Tommy dice:” Odio le faccende! “, La mamma risponde,” Che ne dici di pagarmi con il tuo action figure di Spider Man? Come funzionerebbe? “Tommy esclama,” Farò le faccende! “Quando aiutiamo i nostri figli a costruire il concetto di sé, a condividere il controllo, offrire empatia e conseguenze, quindi condividiamo il pensiero che stiamo insegnando loro lezioni preziose che aiuteranno a costruire il loro personaggio da adulti. L’amore e la genitorialità logica insegna ai bambini come fare scelte sagge, accettare le conseguenze delle loro azioni e responsabilità.
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Cascia Talbert è un blogger impegnato, editore, scrittore freelance, commerciante online e madre di cinque bambini, che vive nel nord -ovest del Pacifico. Con un B.A. Nella storia e nella legge e una passione per la scrittura e la rimanere in salute, ha iniziato la rivista sana Moms nel 2007. La rivista di mamme sere è attualmente classificata il miglior blog sulla salute per le mamme e presenta diversi scrittori di esperti di salute e blogger di mamma. La signora Talbert crede che se le madri sono ben educate su problemi di salute e su come rimanere in salute, possono trasmettere tali informazioni ai loro figli e invertire le statistiche sull’obesità infantile negli Stati Uniti
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La signora Talbert è un blogger di salute in primo piano su Wellsphere.com e i suoi articoli sono disponibili anche su ezinearticles.com. Gestisce anche il social network sano Moms su Ning, è il Chief Marketing Officer di Talbert Nutrition LLC ed è nel comitato consultivo sui social media per l’America’s Wellness Challenge. Seguila su Google+.
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